Resolutions are casual promises to yourself that you are under no legal obligation to fulfil. New Year is the most popular time for people around the world to make new resolutions. Regardless of what resolution you commit to, the goal is to ensure that your tomorrow is better than today. When you commit to change, whether verbalized or not, you are taking the first step to whatever it is you want to accomplish. But how many of us actually achieve it, is the bigger question. As per the US News & World Report, the failure rate for New Year’s resolutions is said to be about 80 per cent, and most lose their resolve by mid-February. If this is true, it’s clear that there is nothing wrong with us; the problem is in the tradition itself.
Ruhi is scared of tough asks. Resolution. It’s a strong, demanding word in itself. It screams, I must !!! It’s a demand that we place upon ourselves and failure is not an option. Yet, failure slips through the cracks. Most people don’t even attempt to make resolutions but she makes new ones every weekend. Yes, you heard that right !! Life is a game. You want to win always but sometimes you have to bite the dust. But that doesn’t stop her from making new resolutions. There is no compulsion. She has no timeline to adhere to. She follows it by heart, does not try to force it upon herself. It might sound stupid and useless to many but it truly works for her.
On the other hand, Eira is a different kind altogether. She does not wait for a weekend or new year to decide upon a change. Anytime is a good time. A spark in the back of her mind ignites thought and her inner self triggers a resolution to actually attain the goal. She tells herself repeatedly why she needs to do a particular thing a particular way. Re-think, re-imagine and re-assess is her mantra. She is a firm believer of the fact that it is all about the decisions we make.
The first step towards self-improvement is to make peace with yourself. We often try to fix things that are not even broken. Aim big, start small. I want to be a better version of myself – this is way too broad a goal. It has to be broken down in multiple steps.
- I want to respond calmly when in conflict.
- I want to get up at 6.30 every morning.
- I want to eat at least one fruit every single day.
- I want to call my parents once every day.
Ruhi’s and Eira’s resolutions are clear but when I think about the same for Amyra, I am short of words. Not because it is overwhelming but because her first resolution was to get a Diary to pen down her resolutions and unfortunately that Diary is still lying in the stationary waiting to be bought.
This is just the first step. In time you’ll take another. Small moves ladies, small moves.
Who do you resemble the most of these three? What have you decided for yourself this Monday? Comment down and share your thoughts with us.